Monday 24 May 2010

My Mom...Journey of motherhood!!




For a person with absolutely miserable memory, it is mental torture to keep remembering things...having dreams and visions about few very fond memories and hoping against hopes that these bits and pieces of memories don't get lost with time or rather wondering often what if I forget this or that???? Thats exactly what prompted to write...or rather jot down my memories....
And I feel its high time I gave my mom her due share of credits....but to tell you the truth it wasn't always a joyride for us... It was the usual mom-daughter fights.... She picks one dress, I like the other, She picks another...I pick another...it'd take us two hours for us to finally decide on one that I'm comfortable with and my mom in love with....
Oh My..How she loved having me as a baby.... She never could stop taking pictures of me...Maybe thats one reason why I'm a poser... ;) I have heard rumours that given a chance she used to bite me...when I was baby...well you ought to know who the rumour monger is...well its only my dearest Mom...
My mom isn't one of those well-educated office going type... She took no interest in her studies... I have heard from both sides (my mom and dad) that when they were in School my Dad used to do her math homework...he never had the patience to teach her how to do it but he just did it himself...now how good is that?????He was also ten years her senior by age!!! But then hey...She is one hell of a creative lady..... I am proud to say that my creativity was inherited from my mom....my awesome mom..... I can draw, sketch, paint, make handmade cards.... thanks to my mom... She always used to encourage me and she was a big fan of my paintings... Well you won't believe it...but she never used to like the idea of selling my work (paintings ;)) and yet I have sold them...just because it was to people my mom knew personally.... ;)
Have you ever heard that if one parent is the tough one then the other tends to soften up to their child...well...my mom was beyond doubt the tough one and dad was the one who always used to spoil me!!!!
Growing up, I and mom have had our share of differences, anger issues, frustrations and sometimes even at this age we still fight... but now she cares and worries about me more than fight with me...She wishes I was still close to her..there at home..for her to yell at me.... ;) How she misses me...and How I miss her!!! Its true that when you don't have it you always end up missing it the most...!!! Maintaining a long distance relationship isn't too easy...especially trying to hide my disappointments and fear...and me missing her just makes it worse...but then I still call her every other day...if I don't she panics!!!
She wasn't a mom who allowed her daughter to do whatever she wants, whenever she wants...go for movies with friends..least of all a boyfriend.. Till I moved to Glasgow I have always been afraid to go to movies with friends but yeah that didn't stop me few times....but trust me...oh the guilt....I wished I've never done that.... She didn't give me too much of freedom but just enough to maintain good friendships... yes... She knew all my friends right from school to college and she has her own favourites among them... her favourites are the ones thats lasted in my life...She has these instincts about people.... and trust me its spooky... She'd find out when I lie with just one look!!! She was way too protective about me and growing up around my mama bear wasn't that easy....Yet I have survived...experience I tell you from her though....
For person who didn't know much about the world, my mom was born and brought up in Colombo, Sri Lanka, has travelled continents after she married my Dad, settled in a strange weird place called Nigeria..where she gave birth to strange beautiful ME...and yet travelled again.... Her passport has more stamps than anyone I've known now...and finally my proud parents have settled down not in one place now but in two...yes Dad's in Andhra, and Mom's in Chennai.... but yeah they travel to and fro to be together during holidays!!
Being the youngest in her family of 6 brothers and two older sisters..my mom was obviously the spoilt one.... She's still a kid I tell you... She loves chocolates and ice creams ...those are two things she'd fight for.... maybe thats why I've always not been a fan of chocolates and ice creams... all those family gatherings , parties and weddings we've attended...mom used to rob me of my share of chocolates and icecream...well I didn't mind it then and wouldn't mind it now... One of her nightmares is to suffer from diabetes as end result of all her chocolate fantasy and I hope she's healthy always.... What would I ever do without them??? At the age of 27, I still feel lost without them...can't even imagine how my life would be without them...
Well I don't want to think about it... Its still a long way to go.... Am just 27!!!
To my mom, You're the plump cute softtoy that I've always hugged and slept growing up!!!! There is no substitute!!!! Will always love you....eventhough I'm Daddy's Lil Girl!

7 comments:

Unknown said...

Your mom would be so proud of you. This posting shows how truly you miss your mom. Love that you took the time to dedicate this to your mom. You will one day be a wonderful mom!

PRK said...

sweet :)

Unknown said...

Thank You cheta and Thanks Karthik!!! It means a lot to me... :)

Unknown said...

I just hope aunty gets to read this am sure she will love this - think this is a nice way of telling her her how much she means to you !!

Unknown said...

@Arunn: You are the beshtesht everrrrrr!!!!!!!! :)

Unknown said...

And people just a spoiler...my next post is going to be how I met Arunn!!!

laddu said...

HEY..PRIYA...NICE AND HAPPY TO KNOW ABOUT UR SWEET MOM...HER LOVING STRICT WAYS...U REALLY MAKE UR MOM PROUD..I AM SURE..EAGERLY WAITING FOR THE NEXT POST....:)